when I try to log in I get Stuck on connecting to realm or

io.channel.AbstractChannel$AnnotatedConnectException: Connection timed out: no further information:

When trying to close I get stuck on  Closing the realm.. or

Error 500

When stitching the world I get

I cannot download the world or swap to another. I get this issue on multiple computers. On WIFI and LAN, MAC and Windows. I have shut off every firewall and reset the router.

the kick in the pants is I can log onto a friends realm just fine.