So to put it simply, my friend has a realm with add-ons with a resource pack that I don't particularly like but my friend does and it was originally set to not have them required to join

Fast forward a little bit and he lost some of his things in lava and so he reloaded the realm to a different save ~7 mins before he died

After this happened when I tried to join the realm the realm forced me to have this resource pack on.

When I delete the pack from my storage and try to join the realm it only gives me the options to 'Download and Join' or 'Leave' instead of 'Download' or 'Join without downloading'

We've tried to click the toggle off but every time he backs out of it, it's been re-enabled and we can't do anything about it

In the image shown it shows that the toggle is off despite still requiring pack downloads to join after this menu is closed