My husband and I are on a realm on the most recent update, we died when to a zombie spawner. A friend ran to get our stuff and he got back to where we died in way under five minutes but all of our things were gone. We’re talking all our netherite armor, weapons, tools, shulkers full of items, everything despawned in under five minutes. I set a timer when I died to know if I was going to make it and he got there in about 2.5 minutes, still everything was gone. This isn’t the first time this happened but this is the first time that it was literally everything we owned.